Occasionally people say things to us that can be mean and can leave a us feeling embarrassed and hurt or angry. Ask anyone and they will all agree there are experiences that have left them feeling frustration and stress, thinking, “I should have said…” It would be nice if we had an easy and effective way to verbally defend ourselves when people aren’t so nice. Here are 6 tips to help you be more effective at dealing with verbal abuse:

1. Recognize verbal abuse. When someone intentionally treats you in a way that creates feelings of fear, shame or guilt they’re probably using abusive tactics. Be aware of how you feel and identify specifically what they are doing that is creating those feelings (ex. specific words like name-calling, body language such as physical intimidation, tone of voice, etc.).
2. Control yourself by staying balanced. Practice by relaxing your body, standing/sitting up straight and staying calm while thinking about previous experiences. When the body is in balance the mind will follow and when the mind is in balance the body will follow. To help keep your balance begin by saying nothing – remember, it’s okay to not verbally fight back until you’re mentally ready.
3. Know your point of view and express it. It’s your job to take care of you, not to take care of your attacker – so stop trying to figure out what they want to hear. Speak only about your feelings & opinions and leave theirs alone. Help avoid confusion by making sure your non-verbal communication, such as body language, facial expression and tone of voice, is congruent with the verbal message you’re trying to send.
4. Use your senses effectively. People dislike being judged so avoid labelling, generalizing or summarizing things; instead, use sensory specific language. Talk about what you see, hear and feel – as an example, rather than asking “What are you angry about?” try something like “I noticed your eyebrows are all furrowed and you’ve been clenching your teeth. You’re angry about something, aren’t you?” If you feel it’s necessary to summarize then refrain from rewording what they say. Rather, quote their exact words back to them so they feel like you’re really paying attention and then ask for clarification about any details that are missing.
5. Ask for what you want. Once you’re aware that someone is verbally attacking you, decide what you want different and define it as a specific behaviour, like; “Stop calling me names.”, “Lower your tone of voice.” or “Let go of my arm.” Be certain you do ask for what you want. Hinting, suggesting or demanding is not as effective as just saying please. Unless something more important happens stay focused on your goal until you get their agreement.
6. Take a Verbal Self Defense course. Talk to your local rec. centers about offering verbal self-defense workshops, or ask your employer or a local non-profit club about organizing a class. Although the field of Verbal Self-Defense is relatively young, you can sometimes find seminars being offered in larger metropolitan areas.

These tips can really help a person maintain a sense of mental and emotional safety in the face of verbal aggression. In life there are so many different circumstances where Verbal Self-Defense skills are useful; Ted Mouradian of The Brock Press reports that, “Workplace bullying is on the rise and is recognized as a serious issue in variety of different industries.” On a more personal level, Statistics Canada shows 35% of women experience emotional abuse in their relationship. Recognizing the problem, having good posture while remaining relaxed, staying focused on what you want and clearly asking for it can go a long way to helping a person handle verbal aggression.

For anyone who has instructed you’ll understand when I talk about revelations during the teaching process. The most interesting thing I’ve found is that these revelations are becoming less and less realizations and more often the remembering of something I realized some time before. As I was teaching a workshop yesterday I had a question relating to motivation and what drives a person to make certain choices. As we (the group) discussed ideas and concepts about criteria we use to make choices I remembered something my mentor (Judy Wright) once said; “A value can sometimes be used as criteria in the decision making process.”

As I began trying to relate this concept to the class a difference had to be made between a “Need” and a “Value”. William Glasser, developer of Reality Therapy & Choice Theory, talks about th 5 Basic Needs (Safety/Survival, Fun, Freedom, Power, Love & Belonging) and these are different than our Core Values.

A core value identifies the guidelines of how we get our needs met – let’s use an example; someone who we love refuses to stop talking to us and we need to leave, yet we can’t just turn and walk away because that would be rude. This person helps fill our need for LOVE & BELONGING and we VALUE respect because we were raised to believe that a good person who deserves love is respectful (i.e. us). Adhering to our values we try to politely interrupt and explain that we must leave. Now let’s complicate it …the reason we must go is because we have to get to work so we can earn the money to buy the luxuries in life (ultimately giving us a sense of POWER over our life). That need for Power will be met because we VALUE punctuality in our career.

If we are unable to appropriately interrupt the person speaking, then the first question is, “Which NEED is stronger – the one for LOVE & BELONGING or the the one for POWER?” If they’re comparable then the next question is, “Which do we VALUE more – respect in our relationship or punctuality in our career?”.

So ultimately it is our Needs which drive us and, in the situation where two needs competing to be met are equal in strength, then our Core Values become the deciding factor in motivation. It’s only when our Needs are largely depleted that our Values begin to change unexpectedly. In our example this could be seen in a situation where we’re feeling we MUST go to work that day and be on time otherwise we’ll lose our job and we have no other means to pay rent which is due the same day. In that case we can become increasingly rude in our attempts to leave until finally we just turned and walked away.

Now …please note that I am aware this is a fairly simplistic, black & white example which doesn’t take into account the concept of feedback or our belief systems or other such things. It does however explain my point. Your value systems are what guide your choices. Your needs are what motivate you. Only when your basic needs are filled, then your values become a deciding factor in motivation …and that’s something to think about the next time you’re looking at your list of new years resolutions.

This article was originally written by Emmanuel Segui and posted on ezinearticles.com.

NLP stands for neuro-linguistic programming. It is an approach to psychotherapy and a model of change based on the subjective study of language, communication and change.
NLP practitioners had a lot of success helping people. Here are 3 reasons why NLP is very effective in helping people change, grow and succeed

1. NLP is solution oriented. One of the NLP fundamentals says that we need to look for what the client wants first. A NLP practitioner will ask the following questions very early in the discussion “What is your objective? What do you want?” Instead of researching the past to find the possible cause of such and such problem, we determine an objective and find or create the resources that the client needs to step away from the problem and go towards the solution. The clients create their own objectives and the NLP practitioner guides them through the steps toward the solution. Simply put, a NLP practitioner will help the client find his own solution with the resources he already has in him or herself.
2. NLP is brief therapy. No need to lie down on a sofa for 20 years. NLP stands on the shoulders of giants like Freud, Perls, Erickson, etc… find the best practices, the best strategies and helps clients create their own success and help them realize that they already have all the resources they need to change. They just need a guide. That’s what NLP is all about. A NLP practitioner doesn’t have the solution to the problem but he knows how to help you find the solution that is already in you.
3. NLP is not based on theory. NLP came from modeling exceptional people and exceptional psychotherapists. The founders of NLP, Richard Bandler and John Grinder, observed and tried to replicate the work of Milton Erickson (hypnotherapist), Virginia Satir (family therapist), and Fritz Perls (gestalt therapist). They were interested in what were the key strategies that made these therapists successful. Then Bandler and Grinder created models that we could replicate to have the same kind of success they had. In other words, we already know that when we apply the same models or patterns to a client, it is actually going to work and the person is actually going to be healed. To give a concrete example, lots of scientists criticized the NLP phobia cure or NLP allergy process because of no scientist evidence that it will work. Nevertheless, the NLP phobia cure technique can help a client get rid of a phobia 100% of the time if correctly done and the allergy process helps a client get rid of an allergy and it works 85% of the time.

NLP is solution oriented, fast and not based on theory. NLP practitioners have a lot of success helping clients with communication, phobias, traumas or general health issues. But NLP is more than curing a phobia. NLP is about helping someone evolve and become congruent and aligned in all areas of your life.

Original Author: Emmanuel Segui – NLP Strategies for Breathtaking Success

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This article was written by Hugh Comerford of NLP Centres Canada and posted on Facebook.

NLP is a set of tools and processes extracted originally in the 1970s from the world of ‘brief therapy’. The originators of NLP studied therapists who were able to assist their clients much faster and in many cases much more effectively than the rest of the therapeutic community.

In fact, originally NLP referred only to the actual modeling tools; the tools that extracted the conscious and unconscious processes by which these ‘wizards of therapy’ effected miraculous changes in their clients.

Over time, the actual processes themselves have come to symbolize NLP.

The most famous ‘NLP Practitioner’ is Tony Robbins, but the work he does is more about performing NLP than really teaching people how to use it to help themselves.

NLP in some ways is a distillation of ‘what works’ in any situation, then ‘what works’ is turned into a step-by-step process that anyone can use to increase or enhance their own performance, often appearing to be ‘magical’ in its effect.

Some of the more famous NLP Processes help people get rid of simple phobias (spiders, cats, dogs, flying, etc) in about 15 minutes. Another famous process helps people get rid of allergies in one session. Both these techniques have been proven in clinical trials.

NLP doesn’t really care why or how something works, only that it does.

Frankly, this interest in results versus proof has been the achilles heel of NLP and has directly kept it from being recognized as a tremendous set of tools with the power it has to change people’s lives for the better.

That said, many people have and continue to use NLP to help them do incredible things they would otherwise never be able to do, and to help others overcome significant obstacles in their lives.

Some quotes from very famous people about NLP:

• “NLP helps me to manage audiences and motivate them. It is just amazing.”
  — Oprah Winfrey
• “I built my sales career from zero to become the world best motivator by using NLP”
  — Anthony Robbins
• “NLP produces results and improves rapport. I want all my staff to attend the training.”
  — James Olson, former chairman, AT&T
• “NLP is one of the biggest breakthroughs in the technology of achievement and human excellence.”
  — Time Magazine
• “NLP could be the most important synthesis of knowledge about human communication to emerge since the explosion of Humanistic Psychology in the sixties.”
  — Science Digest

NLP Centres CANADA has been training and coaching people using NLP since 1981. We have successfully helped thousands of people successfully navigate tens of thousands of problems, opportunities removing roadblocks to help them achieve their outcomes.

We have taught doctors, lawyers, accountants, psychologists, psychiatrists, dozens of personal trainers, CEOs, Presidents and Managing directors as well as people from all walks of life.

For more information, take a look at http://www.nlpworks.com

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This article was originally written by Danny Fredricks and posted on ezinearticles.com.

In this article I’d like to address a couple dangerous myths about hypnosis and NLP. Many people who are actively engaged in the selling, (or the learning for that matter) of these exotic and magical mind sciences seem to be FAR less aware of what they really are about than they should be! In the last few days I’ve gotten a few questions about using conversational hypnosis for fun and profit (which is EASY to do!) but unfortunately, a lot of the information they had been led to believe was completely fabricated on both sides of the fence. Let’s take a look at 3 of the MANY dangerous myths that are out there, right now, on both of the above. Read on..:-)

NLP is a Cult

No – it’s most definitely NOT! Are there clubs, groups and associations of people who practice NLP techniques together to better their lives? Absolutely! But it’s not a religion, or a formal organization even. It’s simply a POWERFUL toolkit to unlocking MUCH of what you want in your own life through self mastery.

Conversational Hypnosis is illegal to practice without a license

This one actually makes me chuckle a little bit..:-) Hypnosis, for one is VERY different than conversational hypnosis, which is closely related to the “mind control” methods that many NLP courses espouse. Hypnosis as a STAGE practice is entirely different and cannot be compared. Conversational hypnosis though, requires NO license of ANY kind. It’s sort of like saying….if you learn how to become REALLY charming, charismatic and magnetic, you’ll need to get a license to go out in public! Funny…but false!

Only People with BAD Motivations Learn NLP and Conversational Hypnosis Techniques

This one I hear A LOT…and it really bothers me. There is NOTHING immoral, or bad about learning the art and science of mental persuasion. I would argue it is a NECESSARY skill set to do GOOD! It’s actually easier and requires far less intelligence to do simple, selfish and bad things. But to be MAGNIFICENTLY in control of both your OWN emotions, and those of others, and to do PHENOMENAL things in the process…this is a skill worth learning for sure.

And remember, to become POWERFULLY magnetic should be the aspiration of EVERY man (or woman) who simply wants to SUCK all of the JOY and juice out of life and eat from the fruits of unlimited power, PASSION and potential. I believe we are EACH given the ability to focus our MINDS, and our desires on that which we DESPERATELY wish to achieve, and that THIS is the fundamental truth and promise that hypnosis holds for all who dare to indulge in it’s secrets.

Unlocking your own hidden potentials, and freeing yourself from FEARS, phobias and unresolved issues is JUST the beginning. Once you learn the true key to how OTHER people’s brains really tick, you will be able to effortlessly and ETHICALLY enter and occupy their mind space with CONFIDENCE and care, illuminating your own power, charisma and INFINITE appeal to all who gravitate to your space.

There is MAGIC in this world if you know where to look….for the mind control expert the GATES are OPEN!

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This article was originally written by Perry Lai and posted on ezinearticles.com.

NLP coaching is a terrific technology for you to help change your life.

One of the techniques of NLP coaching is called perceptual positions. In simple words, there are altogether three perceptual positions that one can take in NLP coaching. There is the first person, second person as well as the third person perceptual positions.

What all these positions actually mean is very simple. First person means you see the problem through your own eyes. Second position means you see the problem through your coach’s eyes. Third position means you see the problem through an observer’s eyes looking at you as well as your coach.

So how does this apply to you? Simple. In NLP coaching, you can actually help coach somebody else to solve their problems using the three perceptual positions. You could even help yourself with NLP coaching using these three perceptual positions. What do I mean by that? If you have a problem you want solved or you want to change a behavior or a habit, you could look within yourself as a first-person. From a first-person perspective, you can look within yourself and ask yourself what do I feel and how do I feel and why do I feel this way.

Then you can look at the problem from a second person’s perspective. Why are you feeling this particular way, why is my client feeling this way, what are his or her resources and what can he do to change the situation?

Then from a third person’s perspective using NLP coaching technology, this third-person could then ask if the two of them are making progress? Are whatever solutions the coach has come up with for the subject effective?

By putting yourself in three perceptual positions, you can use the power of NLP coaching to change your life and to change habits. I know it may seem a little too extract right now, but don’t worry, once you do it and test it out, you will understand what I mean. It is difficult for someone to put himself in a position other than through his or her own eyes. This will take a little bit of practice.

This is just one technique of NLP coaching, which can help change a life. There are three more that I want to share with you.

One of which is called the swish pattern. Using NLP coaching, you can apply a technique known as the swish pattern to help you to destroy your limiting patterns or your limiting habits. The swish pattern simply means that whatever triggered events that leads to an outcome which you don’t want, you can use swish pattern to change the outcome to something that you want.

A very simple example is the alarm clock. Using the swish pattern, you can change the sound of your alarm clock from making you want to sleep five more minutes to making you jump out of bed totally empowered and ready for the day. This is what swish pattern does. So go ahead and find out a little more about swish pattern. I can’t share the whole detail of the swish pattern technique here because it’ll take too long.

The next NLP coaching technique I want to share with you is called a pattern interrupt. Very often when we are in a stuck state, we have this pattern, which we go through over and over again. It’s almost like a vicious cycle that we can’t break out of. Using the power of pattern interrupt, which you can either do it yourself or get somebody else to do it for you, you can use this NLP coaching technique to move you out of the stuck state into another empowering state.

Another NLP coaching technique is known as Milton model language patterns. Using the Milton model language pattern, you can actually program your mind to have a success state of mind.

The key factor to using NLP coaching is that it not only helps you to coach other people or to get somebody else to coach you using the techniques you have learned, you can also do self programming. This is very important because when you are in control of your own change, you are so much more empowered. With NLP coaching you can program yourself to the outcome that you want.

So go ahead and find out a little bit more about NLP coaching through my link and see if it’s what you are looking for to solve your problems immediately.

Original Author: Perry Lai is a speaker, trainer, author and coach who can, in a span of 30 secs, help someone dare to dream again. Using the NLP success technology, he now speaks and trains for a multimillion dollar training company in Singapore. If you’d like, Click here to download Perry’s report on using Success with NLP for FREE.

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This article was originally written by Shezz P and posted on ezinearticles.com.

Most people have some goals in their life, but unfortunately most people never achieve those goals. NLP teaches you how to have well formed outcomes rather than goals as goals are just that a goal, whereas an outcome is the actual outcome of having achieved that goal.

You need to have well formed outcomes and be able to imagine how you will feel when you achieve that outcome. By having well formed outcomes in your life you can create well being in business, personal life and relationships.

If there is any area in your life, whether it is business or personal, which you want to change for the better then by creating an NLP well formed outcome you can begin to work toward that by getting by using NLP techniques.

Your outcome should be something positive as our bodies do not process negatives. So for example, if your outcome is to lose weight you need to look at it in a positive way, your outcome should not be to lose weight but it should be to be slimmer and fitter. You need to look at the positive end result and focus on that, you don’t want to focus on any negatives.

Your outcome needs to be measure by your senses – sight, sounds and feelings. You need to be able to measure your progress so that you will know if you are on the right track to achieve your outcome.

Your outcome needs to be something that is self initiated and self controlled. You cannot rely on others to change your life for you so it needs to be something that you can have control over. You need to rely only on yourself to achieve your outcome.

You may need to be flexible to achieve your outcome. By using your senses and measuring the progress toward reaching your outcome, if your senses tell you that you are not getting any closer then you need to be flexible in your approach and change your approach if need be.

The next step, and a very important one, is to take action. You can have all the dreams, goal or outcomes in the world but they won’t get you anywhere unless you take action. One big reason that many people don’t reach their goals is because they procrastinate and don’t take action.

NLP techniques can teach you how to motivate yourself and get yourself to take action toward achieving your well formed outcomes. Outcome based thinking enables you to visualize the precise outcome before you begin the process of working toward the outcome. NLP teaches you to set goals and keep them in mind right through the negotiation process.

It is important when working toward your outcome to not get disheartened if you aren’t reaching your outcome as fast as you’d hoped. Many people will feel that they aren’t reaching their outcome and may give up. While people that use NLP skills will look at their progress in a more positive way and look at how far they have come toward reaching their outcome and feel good about how far they have come. That is the great thing about NLP skills that they give you energy and motivation to keep going and realise your dreams.

Original Author: Shezz P., has successfully changed her life using NLP techniques. Go to her Depression Days website to find out more.

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This article was originally written by Bill Thomason and posted on ezinearticles.com.

Personal and business coaching has become a significant and respectable business over the last few years. Look around and you will find that the most successful people you know have coaches. Celebrities and sports figures have personal coaches in addition to whatever organized coaching their profession provides.

A coach can help you push beyond the normal limit at which you would most likely stop. In addition, a good coach can help you focus your efforts for maximum results. Starting from The Inner Game of Tennis & The Inner Game of Golf books written by Gallwey in the 1970’s, coaching has now moved from sports coaching to the executive business level, financial coaching, and even into personal life issues and family coaching.

Who is Becoming a Coach?

Young people report they are considering coaching as a viable career. Many experienced business people are leaving the corporate ranks and looking for an alternative career that utilizes their expertise. Coaching gives them flexibility in their schedules, and a way to make as much income as their entrepreneurial skills will allow while they are facilitating other people. For business people and students, Coaching has become a viable alternative.

Psychotherapists and individuals in other medically-related helping professions have become disenchanted with the controls of the managed health care system, the mountains of paperwork that have done nothing but escalate over the last years, and the ability to make even basic decisions about the welfare and health of patients has been undermined. Coaching offers the promise of freedom of practice and increased patient response. Many therapists have dropped their credentials to pursue alternative careers.

Benefits of NLP Coach Training

• Get out of a dead end job
• Dictate your own schedule
• Dictate your own income potential
• Freedom to practice as you see fit
• Expand the practice you already have
• Get recognition for your accomplishments
• Escape the managed health care nightmare
• Utilize your hard-earned skills and experience
• Skills better than 90% of coaches already in the field
• Escape from the pressures of the corporate workplace
• Avoid the paperwork mill of the medical establishment

Is being a NLP Coach the Right Choice for You?

If you are interested in becoming a coach, there are a number of avenues out there for pursuing your goal. However, you do want to make a smart choice that is right for you. The fact is; the quality of coach training varies tremendously from one training organization to another and many of these organizations do not impart a high level of specific skills for personal change to their students.

As the coaching profession has grown, NLP Practitioners have discovered they already have skills for coaching that put them easily in the top 5-10% of all coaches, regardless of what organization supplied their training. NLP or Neuro Linguistic Programming is sometimes referred to as the ’study and application of excellence.’ NLP is, in fact, about change. NLP Success Coaching incorporates the same technology for profound personal change that sky-rocketed best-selling author Anthony Robbins and others to massive success in the motivational field.

Why NLP Coaching?

To date, there is no regulation with regard to coaching. There is no state or federal laws outlining criteria to be a coach. Anyone can be a coach. Many business managers, Psychotherapists, and Holistic health practitioners realize that they already are coaches. Their experience and personal orientation toward facilitating others is their qualification. A number of training organizations and colleges have expanded their curriculum to include coaching in an effort to create internal standards for the field of coaching.

From the viewpoint of being an NLP Coach, most of the other coach training programs out there are giving people very few skills for actually dealing with change. Certification-level training in NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) has been available since the late 1970’s and lends itself perfectly to the coaching format. At NLP Practitioner Certification-level in NLP, you will discover you already have better skills than 90% of the coaches in the coaching field, regardless of training. NLP Practitioners have realized they were coaching all along over the years and with only a few distinctions, the transition to NLP Coaching has been natural and easy.

NLP Coaching vs. Other Coaching

You just can’t get this level of training from any college oriented NLP or Coaching course. Learning NLP skills is an EXPERIENTIAL process. If you could get this from reading books, you wouldn’t need to take a course like this. You will be learning NLP using NLP and Excelerated Learning© techniques to teach it. An experienced NLP Trainer can help you pinpoint learning in such a way it integrates deeply into your core programming. Beyond the skills, you are learning the attitudes and beliefs and the collective wisdom of the world’s most highly successful NLP Practitioners.

How did coaching get to be so big all of a sudden?

Obviously, it is because coaching works. People are willing to pay someone to help them find ways to be more effective, efficient, and profitable in today’s fast paced world. A driving question behind this movement toward personal excellence is, “How can I do more, be more, and enjoy life?”

Original Author: Bill Thomason has been a NLP Coach and Trainer since the mid 1980’s his trainings are held in Scottsdale and Sedona, Arizona. For more information about Bill and his trainings please visit NLP Skills Training

Bill Thomason’s NLP Coaching & Skills Training Institute offers NLP Coach Certification programs. Like NLP general training, the NLP Coach Certification program is taught with Excelerated Learning© techniques so that the learning is multiplied many times over and is installed at a very deep level into your basic programming. This approach integrates the past experience you bring to your coaching with cutting-edge skills for profound personal and business change. NLP Coach training is, by definition, about creating change and it operates on the belief that, “you already have all the resources necessary to achieve any outcome you want in life.” You may just have those resources organized in a way you have not been getting what you want.

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This article was originally written by Steve Bauer and posted on ezinearticles.com.

You came looking for NLP Jedi Mind Tricks stories. Here is one I will share with you.

A few years back, while going through my NLP Practitioner certification, I was still struggling to master NLP and understand how to structure my conversation and interrupt patterns. I was still under the spell of NLP and thought that it was the end all be all of everything. And while I discovered later that it was yet another tool that I could leverage to accomplish what I needed to get done, I experienced a little episode that just showed the power of what I had at hand.

One night, while leaving the NLP Practitioner training at some 11pm hours of the night, I was breezing through Wisconsin in-roads at top speed. The organic farm I stayed at was about 30-40 minutes away from the training center. Needless to say, I was eager to get to sleep and I was coasting away at over 75 mph.

Eventually, the famous blue and red lights started flashing in my rear-view mirror. A cop. S@&t!

Suddenly, an idea flashed through my mind.

The cop got out of his car and came to my window. As soon as he said: “Good evening…” I looked back in his eyes and said with the biggest smile in the world: “Good evening officer!!!! It’s so great to see you!!!!”

Immediately, you could see his eyes start spinning as his brain went into massive confusion. Pattern interrupt at its best.

He said: “You know you’re doing 75mph in a zone where the limit is 55mph?”

I replied: “Officer, I’m totally wrong about what I’m doing and I know everybody gives you such a hard time about what you do. You’re so right. Thank you for making sure Wisconsin roads are safe. I absolutely deserve this ticket.”

Now, he was really confused.

He asked: “Why are you so happy?”

I said: “Sir, I’m going through a personal excellence course right now that’s helping me discover incredible qualities in myself that I didn’t know about before. And I guess that’s why I’m a little overexcited about my driving. But that’s no excuse. I am compromising the safety here and you can write me up.”

He looked at me and said: “You know what… I’ll just let you go with a warning. But be a little more careful.”

I said: “You bet, officer. Thank you so much and have a good night!”

That’s what a beginner can do when trained properly in NLP. Massive pattern interrupt. Massive confusion.

And here’s the best part: no deception whatsoever.

You see, when you learn NLP with integrity, there’s no need for sneaky, covert, deceptive tactics. You just stand right in the open and get what you want.

Original Author: Steve Bauer specializes in teaching NLP to beginning students and offers a Free Skill-Building Guide available for download here.

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This article was originally written by James McCarthy and posted on ezinearticles.com.

Depression is very common in a world that can be cruel and demanding. Symptoms can affect day-to-day life and can become very distressing. Treatments include talking treatments and antidepressant medicines. Many people who suffer from depression will visit their GP for help and are subsequently prescribed antidepressant medicines. In my opinion this should be the last resort. Talking treatments such as NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) and the more widely known CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) are effective solutions to combating depression. At my practice in Hertfordshire I treat many people for depression with a very high success rate. Treatment takes time to work but has a good chance of success. Some people have recurring episodes of depression and require long-term treatment to keep symptoms away.

When a person becomes depressed it can affect all aspects of their life i.e. work, relationships, sex life and their social life. I have treated many clients at my practice in Hertfordshire who find it difficult to motivate themselves at work or even in their relationships. We all feel depressed at times but generally we are able to pick ourselves up again after a few days or as some might say snap out of it. However, it is time to seek professional help when you are not able to overcome these issues.

CBT is based on the idea that our thoughts cause our feelings and behaviours, not external things, like people, situations and events. The benefit of this fact is that we can change the way we think to feel and act better even if the situation does not change. CBT makes you challenge your own thought pattern and change old beliefs you may have that are holding you back. It is not about merely thinking positively but viewing a situation differently.

I would generally recommend CBT for people who are suffering depression ,however, if this does not work why not try another form of cognitive therapy which is NLP. NLP is not as commonly known as CBT but can be just as affective at treating people who are suffering from depression. NLP works more with what we might see, feel, hear when we are depressed. For example at my practice in Hertfordshire, Berkhamsted I would ask a client if when they are depressed do they see any specific imagery, hear anything or feel anything specifically. Some clients say they feel empty in their stomach or their imagery is distorted. So on this basis we would work on their imagery. Also Hypnotherapy can help with depression as this puts a client in a deep state of relaxation and talks to their sub conscious about issues they might be struggling with.

I use both types of Cognitive Therapy at my practice in Hertfordshire, Berkhamsted to see what is most affective for the client. Each client is different and some people respond better to CBT and others to NLP. It really depends on the individual, the initial problems they have and how much they want to change negative thinking patterns. My aim is to guide a person past their negative thought pattern and old beliefs to a more positive frame of mind.

Original Author: James McCarthy is an NLP Practitioner specializing in treating people with emotional, motivational and other psychological difficulties in Berkhamsted, Hertfordshire, UK. For more information about James please visit his website at http://www.jamesmccarthy.org.uk.

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